Key-points & Next steps: Raising Children in an Age of Overwhelm Share +

Posted by: coronadosafe 4 years, 10 months ago

Jan.09

Whether or not you were able to join us at "Raising Children in an Age of Overwhelm" we want to share with you the great parenting tips and methods that were presented at the conference.

It's one thing to hear about these ideas, and another to implement them into your homes, so we've added some practical next steps that you and your family can take to begin these changes.   

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Sara Vance: Are Processed Foods Overwhelming Our Kids’ Bodies

Key Points

  • We want our children to be happy and healthy. We see that our children’s response to sugar looks like it makes them happy, but riding the “Sugar Roller-Coaster” causes them to be unhealthy AND ultimately unhappy
  • Excess sugars and processed foods in our diet are contributing to multiple chronic illnesses and mental ailments
  • Sugar is addictive and unusually high amounts are hiding in most packaged foods

Next Steps:

  1. Reduce sugar intake: the less they eat, the less they’ll need
  2. Cook at home  & reduce pre-processed and canned foods
  3. Get the kid’s involved: If they cook it, they’ll eat it
  4. Be a “Nutrition Detective” & determine, is this food OR a science experiment?
  5. Encourage food logs: Connect what you eat with how you feel
  6. Practice Eating a Rainbow and abide by the Rule of Three: Fat Fiber and Protein
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Lucinda Ribant: Creating Home as the Safe Haven in Today’s Hectic World

 Key Points:

  • Rates of childhood anxiety have risen drastically over the last decade
  • The breakdown of supportive communities and strong households have lessened the amount of support youth feel in today’s hectic world
  • Like blueprints for a house, parents can consciously create a plan and vision for their household that gives the children the structural integrity they need to thrive
  • Parents can give children a sense of that structural integrity when they recognize and overtly communicate family values and priorities, identifying what behavior supports those values and what behavior doesn’t

 Next Steps:

  1. Get clear on your guiding values and like a roadmap, let them guide the way to your family’s success
  2. What are your family values and how do you communicate them?
    1. What actions and behaviors support these values?
    2. What goes against them?
    3. What are your family’s priorities?
    4. What are the responsibilities?
  3. Communicate with your kids
  4. Model actions that are consistent with your words
  5. Get away from the cycle of ‘busyness’ by clarifying your own expectations
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Brad Willis: Media and Parenting Today’s Child

 Key Points:

  • Excess stress leads to multiple health concerns and can impact our children by raising frustration/anxiety which contributes to poor grades, poor performance, attention deficit, and drugs/alcohol abuse
  • We have the power to self-direct our own biology and physical chemistry
  • Negative media overwhelms and creates agitation by Media Mind Control: 1) Creates a problem, 2) Fosters    agitation, and 3) Provides a solution at a cost
  • Yoga is a natural balance and harmony, moving from a fragmented mind to a more whole one

 Next Steps:

  1. Affirm every small victory your children experience and be their positive mirror
  2. Be with your kids (mentally, not just physically)
  3. Limit media and access to devices; play calming music and dine in silence
  4. Decrease your own doing (focus your priorities and do less)
  5. Surround yourself with happiness
  6. Get into nature and connect to its natural rhythms
  7. Cultivate positive emotions, most especially love
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Lorraine Hobbs: Time in is the New Time Out: Receptive Versus Reactive Parenting

Key Points:

  • Reactivity vs. Receptivity:  There is a great value of parenting from a receptive, rather than reactive state
  • The Wandering Mind:  Learn to be fully present with your child... moment-by-moment
  • "Time In" can facilitate healthy changes and improve our connection and communication with our child
  • Parents can redirect a child's strong emotions:    1. Name it to tame it        2. Connect and Redirect

 Next Steps:

  1. Encourage mindfulness in the home
  2. Do one thing at a time (mentally and physically)
  3. Help your children to identify their emotions
  4. Practice getting in-tune with breath
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Jeff Everage: Ancient Models for Modern Parenting

 Key Points:

  • Evidence shows that children are not well adapted to the world we live in 
  • A look at healthy indigenous people underscores some key ingredients that are missing in modern families and cultures
  • Rather than playing, much of our society is either competing or getting entertained
  • Competition breeds shame, individualism, and loss of a collective whole
  • Entertainment lessons our connections to our ‘tribe’ and outside world

Next Steps:

  1. Find a way to play and let your children see you
  2. Model what it is that you want your children to learn
  3. Play and be a model for what “play” means to your kids
  4. See competition through the eyes of a bushman: let the winners stay winners on the field only and encourage them to mentor the ones less strong in the game
  5. Unplug and make the trade, from media based entertainment to active engagement in the environment
  6. Be involved and get the community involved (“the village” aka the community should be a mentor)
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Dr. Adria O’Donnell: Parenting Through a New Lens

Key Points:

  • Anxiety is ruining your great parenting moments
  • Anger hides their anxiety about fear, it hides your anxiety about your child’s functioning
  • It is always best to let kids (and parents) cool off before engaging or responding to anxiety ridden situations
  • Parental over involvement undermines children’s abilities; parents can debilitate children by working too hard to prepare the road for the child, rather than to prepare the child for the road

Next Steps:

  1. Practice staying out of the “Blender”
  2. Be calm and present in the pain and in the joy of your child’s experience
  3. Listen ‘shallow’ so as not to react to the pain or anger in your child’s expression
  4. Hear and reflect what you hear, without jumping in with judgments or solutions